Every time I see our family's low expenses, there are always curious questions: Does socializing not cost money?
Indeed, my husband and I rarely spend money on socializing.
In 2023, we will spend zero yuan on social media.
From 2024 to present, the money we spend on socializing is still zero yuan.
Moreover, we don't spend much money on personal relationships.
In recent years, I have not only simplified items, food, electronic information, etc., but also simplified various interpersonal relationships.
I don't have many friends and my family relationships are not complicated, so I am in a state that I like and feel relaxed about. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
Life is short, and I hope to spend my limited time and money on truly loving me and the people I love. Don't forget to share your experience!
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1) I have distanced myself from colleagues and friends who only eat, drink, and have fun.
As a person, I really need time alone.
So, once or twice a month, I make plans to go eat, drink, and have fun, which makes me feel very fresh and lively. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
But often like this, I only feel bored and tired.
I have been away from such a group of colleagues before.
Almost every day after work and every weekend, I make plans to go shopping, have dinner, watch movies, sing karaoke, etc. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Seemingly lively, but without I have spoken an interesting and profound sentence.
I was encouraged to buy many unnecessary and not particularly fond items.
After mixing with them for a month in order to fit in, I realized that I was really unhappy and even physically and mentally exhausted. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Not only that, my wallet is also severely damaged, and I often don't have time to read or write articles quietly. Don't forget to share your experience!
I quickly realized that I didn't like or enjoy this kind of socializing.
Slowly, I emerged from the crowd.
What if you don't fit in? I would rather be myself!
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2) I have distanced myself from friends who only treat me as an emotional trash can.
It's normal to confide in friends when you have something unhappy, and I also welcome it.
However, if I go online every day to pick up negative information and make myself unrequited, and then pass it on to me, I will not be able to bear such friends. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Also, it's hard for me to accept someone like Sister Xianglin who complains about the same thing and person all day long without making any changes. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Life is already full of hardships, and I will actively stay away from people who always provide negative energy and emotions. Don't forget to share your experience!
And I found that if you don't let others consume you, you don't need to spend your wallet to have fun. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
Hey, this is still a great way to save money.
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3) Having a back and forth is called a favor, otherwise it's a burden.
When I was still single, my cousin was also in Guangzhou.
My grandmother told me that it's always good to have relatives to take care of me when we're in a different place, so she gave me her number and asked us to keep in touch and socialize more. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
I have contacted my cousin several times proactively, but he has always refused for various reasons.
Later on, I also gave up.
A few years later, I received a strange phone call and found out that when my cousin borrowed money, he secretly wrote me as a contact person or someone else, and I didn't quite understand. Don't forget to share your experience!
Anyway, the bank's reminder came to me, one phone after another, and I was harassed.
After this incident, I blacklisted my cousin.
Having a back and forth is called a favor, otherwise it's a burden.
The burden of life is already too much, I don't want to add any more burden to myself voluntarily.
So, even if it's family, I will choose to socialize.
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4) My husband and I have become the closest friends.
Although I don't have many friends, I'm not alone.
Because I have a closest friend by my side - my husband.
I can be myself freely in front of him, and he has also found the happiness he wants with me.
We can talk about anything and discuss anything between us.
Accompany each other and grow together.
This is a relationship that I am very satisfied with and also meets some of my social needs.
We don't rely on spending money to sustain ourselves, but we will spend time with each other.
The same goes for the other carefully selected three or two friends.
Gathering is not about spending money, but rather about putting effort into management.
The above is just my choice, you can have a different life.
