Every time I take the subway, I observe the people around me.
Often, what comes towards us are expressionless faces.
They mechanically swipe their phones, waiting for the arrival of their destination.
At this point, a question comes to my mind: are they happy?
For most ordinary people, getting up every day to squeeze into the subway to work may already consume a lot of energy and energy. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
But I've found that it's precisely because life is so difficult that we need to have the ability to be happy and know how to make ourselves happy. Don't forget to share your experience!
At the age of 38, I care more and more about being a happy person, and having some money would be even better! Have you tried this before? Share your story!
·
1) I am very grateful that I have been saving money all along!
After having money in my pocket, I became much more optimistic about life.
When I first got married to my husband, I was very afraid of various unexpected events, mainly because I was afraid that I couldn't handle them. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
I don't dare to think about the future, it makes me very anxious.
Now this kind of 'fear' has noticeably faded away, and I often forget about it.
Thinking that I have money to resist some unknown risks, I no longer worry so much, but instead have more expectations and a desire to explore the future. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
After having money in my pocket, I also have more freedom.
I never dared to imagine not working before.
After all, when the hand stops, the mouth stops.
I don't really care if this class is what I want to attend.
After all, I am more afraid of not having enough money to pay rent.
Now, I dare not work for a year, it's so happy.
Sure enough, as long as people start saving money, they have the first step towards freedom.
So, we need to save money and have money in our pockets so that we can truly have relaxed happiness!
·
2) I am fortunate to have many hobbies and interests!
As you all know, I rarely spend money on my daily life.
But I rarely feel unhappy.
It's like someone asked me, how do you control yourself from snacking?
I left this question to the gentleman to answer, but he hesitated for a moment and said, 'I don't have control, I don't need control.'. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Yes, when we eat our three meals seriously, we rarely think about me having snacks.
I can't remember, so naturally I can't talk about controlling myself.
Similarly, most of the time outside of work, I am addicted to my hobbies and interests, and I rarely think about spending money on them. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
I can't remember, so naturally I can't talk about being unhappy without spending money.
And the interests and hobbies I am talking about here are not general preferences, nor are they superficial behaviors.
But rather willing to spend time and energy to delve deeper, explore carefully, and take the initiative to do things.
Like how I enjoy making delicious food, I can immerse myself in the kitchen all day long. If I don't succeed once, I immediately search for information to compare and study where the problem lies, and then continue to try again until I succeed. What do you think about this?
I learned how to make Mantou when I was a beginner. I made it three times a day.
During this process, not only did time pass quickly, but I also entered a state of flow and gained a lot of happiness and satisfaction. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
·
3) I always place myself in a very important position.
I don't deliberately try to please others, nor do I sacrifice myself excessively. I am also very good at actively fighting for my own rights. Don't forget to share your experience!
I am a married woman who has been married for over 9 years, But in these 9 years, I have rarely experienced internal conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and have rarely experienced grievances in the relationship between husband and wife. What do you think about this?
Most of the time, I can be myself as I please.
These are not things that fell from the sky, but ones that we fought for ourselves.
I spend more time at home than my husband, so naturally I do more housework than him.
But we are all making money and contributing to this family, why do I have to take on more household chores. Don't forget to share your experience!
Of course, I am willing to take on some household chores, but I don't want to be taken for granted. I am the one who does more. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
So, I recorded the time we spent doing housework together for a week.
Data is really a good thing.
It turns out that my weekly household chores are 2.9 times his.
The gentleman was very shocked when he saw this number and immediately agreed to give me compensation, and I can use this compensation to do things I enjoy alone. Don't forget to share your experience!
To my surprise, his enthusiasm for doing housework has also increased compared to before.
·
4) Mentality is important, and I am striving to be a positive and non confrontational person.
When I got married, I didn't receive a dowry; When we bought a house, we didn't force our parents to help us. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
In the eyes of others, I am quite at a disadvantage, even my mother complains that I did not find a 'capable' mother-in-law. Don't forget to share your experience!
But I never mind.
There are both bad and good sides to things.
Because we didn't ask for dowries, our parents in law never asked us to "offer sacrifices" during Chinese New Year holidays, and even wished they could give us some money. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
Because we have never used our parents' money, they never interfere with our lives, and as a result, we have gained a lot of freedom. Have you tried this before? Share your story!
Like us not having children, both parents have never urged or felt sad.
There are both A and B sides to things, but I am better at seeing the positive side, which reduces a lot of internal friction. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
